I have a friend who is 79 ish, I am 45. We met when working in the same shop. I didn’t see her much as we would usually help out at different times, but when we did meet up, we got on ok. She stopped helping out at the shop last year and I didn’t see her for months until bumping into her at the local post office. She seemed pretty pleased to see me and I promised I’d pop round one day for a cuppa.
So, I did, can’t break a promise to an ‘old lady’, can I? She lives alone since her husband died a few years back, doesn’t get out much as she no longer drives and the public transport here is not very good (typical in rural Devon). She does have family nearby but they seem to have little time for her, struggling on with their own problems.
That was six (?) months ago, a year, can’t remember! We are now, I think. quite good mates. I pop round for a brew once a fortnight and end up staying for at least 2 hours none stop talking. Today, we (husband and I) took my pal out to a Christmas Fair at a public garden not far from us. The fair was a bit poor (but managed to buy some booze 😉 so that was good). Then we got some tea and cake and spent about an hour gossiping and generally having a laugh! Husband gets on with her as much as I do!
She has had a full life as a business woman, some of it being in the teddy bear trade. She is also a very talented knitter of tiny clothes for dolls and makes her own teddies (Steiff type bears). My pal can also repair old teddy bears!
Talking of old, I have come to realise that age really does not matter. My friend is funny, interesting…. and a bit cheeky. I do have to watch my language as it can be rather ‘colourful’ but aside from that, I behave the same with her as I do with any pal of a similar age to me.
I think what I am trying to say is, age really is not an issue, never dismiss the ‘elderly’ (my friend will not like that word!). These people have lived and have stories to tell, have sound advice to give and have a valid opinion!
Husband and really enjoyed ourselves and hope to go out with our pal again soon.
If you get chance, make some older friends, everyone gains from it 🙂